Diamonds are forever?.. (Rearrange!) Are diamonds forever?
"Will you Marry me?" He said, popping a small velvet box revealing a diamond ring in one bended knee.
Usual reaction from her: Tears of joy... It depends if she says "Yes" with a smooch or a "No" because "It's not you, it's me. Sorry" (Ouch!)
The act of proposing to your long time or 2 month old relationship with your girlfriend itself is scary (for some!) for some reason, either because they fear rejection, loss of freedom, loss of privacy or change of lifestyle. How much more scarier is it knowing you'll be spending months of starving yourself for saving your salary over an expensive piece of mineral or stone... And you're not even sure if the woman you're asking her hand in marriage would say YES or MAYBE or worse, NO.
In my end, I find it unneccessary.
I have this one or a couple of friends who INSISTS that I should have a ring in my finger as a sign that Im engaged. They said that it's a sign of love and eternity.
These ladies said it's a sign of trust and sacrifice. And insisted that HE should put a ring on my finger. I just smiled and said, OK. Just because I KNOW these girls won't take NO for an answer and will argue nonstop about it. You know, the typical ladies' nagging kind of argument? I hate listening to those.
Anyway, I don't want my boyfriend to do too much for me. I even told him once that I'm good with a turbo-oven or a coffee maker in replacement of an engagement ring. I mean, why a diamond ring? I can't pawn that! I can't make use of that. If I stroll the streets of Colon or somewhere else, I might end up getting mugged or that ring itself could serve as an imaginary neon light inviting thieves to attack me cuz I have a rich boyfriend who can afford a diamond ring, so stealing it from me and stabbing me 'til I die isn't a big deal 'cuz he can afford getting another girl and another ring! (Patay agad agad?) So much for my WIDE imagination!
It's just a piece of stone anyway! It's just shiny!
The tought of giving her the most expensive mineral is really touching but not so important if we think of the other MORE important things.
A gold or diamond ring? NO! Let's be practical! Why not use the money for the marriage ceremony itself? Why not buy a house or a car or maybe a nice fridge or a comfortable bed with it? Not unless he could afford that without hurting his budget for what we're gonna eat. Im not saying that Im forbidding men to give your bride to be an engagement ring. I know it's a token of love and it's a fancy sign for saying "You are my everything and money isn't important that's why Im buying this for you. Now brag this unto your girlfriends and be proud!".
Whatever! It's your money.
Money is one of the most common reason why couples end up with annulment/divorce. I don't need a piece of jewelry in my finger knowing that I can't even afford to buy my own car and that there's so much people starving these days.
My sisters and even my mom got married without the luxury of an engagement ring. Beat that!
Maybe I got this kind of thinking 'cuz the ladies in my family did not have that kind of luxury, maybe because Im just being practical or maybe because I've seen more important things we need to get worried about. Maybe because Im just seeking for something better than a ring; that one person who'd be with me through thick or thin, through my PMS and my fading beauty, through the ups and downs, through sickness and health.
Upon hearing my opinion, one person told me that Im losing my self worth (You dont say!) Whatever!
Now Im done with my rant. And I'm hoping he'd buy me that turbo-oven (for my cooking spree!) or coffee maker (for my fresh brewed caffeine fix!). Keeping my fingers crossed! hahahaha!!!
